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Sometimes the only way to understand an artist is to wear his shoes, to get inside him. Then everything else flows naturally
This is lifetime advice for everybody: if you want to understand a person, don’t judge him or her but be that person. Elio said the phrase when Oliver asked him how he learned to play the piano so good. The boy knew the secret of a good play, he tried to understand what the artist felt in the moment of creation the melody, what was he thinking about while playing it, what events provoked these feelings. It helped him to play the music in the “right” way as a great artist did. It also may help people to understand each other as an old saying says “to walk a mile in one’s shoes” , it may be essential for avoiding criticism and conflicts.
I’m not wise at all. I told you, I know books, and I know how to string words together – it doesn’t mean I know how to speak about the things that matter most to me
Elio doesn’t consider himself wise, although Oliver notices with sarcasm that there is hardly anything in the world the boy doesn’t know about. Elio tries to convince Oliver that the fact that he reads a lot doesn’t mean he is wise, becaus e he can’t speak the things which are really important for him. He couldn’t say speeches about his feelings for Oliver, and fortunately, there was no need to, Oliver has already understood everything. But it often happens with people that we can easily speak about everything meaningless for us , but when it comes to disclosure all the words stuck in the throat. But one should not be afraid of speaking ones feelin gs, because, as we can see in the , it gives us a relief and courage to show our feelings.
Nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot
People are weak, and they hide their weaknesses from other people so as not to be hurt by them. But sometimes it happens that not people but nature itself hurts us as anyone else. It wasn’t Oliver who made Elio suffer, it was the nature of him, his own deepest desires which drew him crazy and lead to what had happened. Elio’s weakest spot was Oliver, but their love was unnatural, and the destiny separated them. It was a cruel way of revenge: Elio’s feelings wer e still so strong, although he knew that he and Oliver have no chance to be together.
Most of us can’t help but live as though we’ve got two lives to live, one is mockup and the other the finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But there’s the only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it
It always happens that we waste our lives as if we have a lot of time ahead – “ there will be another chance ” , “ I will do it another time ” , “I’m too busy, there will be a lot of such opportunities in the future, I’m young yet” . But, as it happens, there is never another chance, one more time, and one last opportunity. One should live here and now, feel every minute of life and do what one feels. Elio’s father doesn’t judge him because of his relationships with Oliver, he says that Elio’s life is his business. But the professor wants his son to remember that hearts and our bodies are given to people only once. So they have to use them as soon as possible because there will come the moment when no one will want it.
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