why is mariam mostly passive to jalil, rasheed, and even the taliban rules, while laila constantly tries to take control

Laila quickens her marriage because she is pregnant; she defies Rasheed because she doesn't love him and because he is abusive; she rants against the Taliban because they have murdered people she loves, and she resumes communication with Tariq because she finds out he is still alive. She loves Tariq, and he is the father of their child.