The Question and Answer section for The Handmaid’s Tale is a great resource to ask questions, find answers, and discuss the novel.
You have a lot of questions here for this short space. Check out "Gender Conflict" at the GradeSaver link below:
The commander sounded more like a naive needy boy rather than an all-powerful chief. He seems to have the need for both a mother-figure, a friend, and a sexual partner in Offred. I don't think he is a monster. His powerful job bellies the fact...