The Question and Answer section for Ender’s Game is a great resource to ask questions, find answers, and discuss the novel.
Ender was a third child. Generally couples were only allowed to have two children.
This question calls for your opinion. There is no right or wrong answer. In my opinion, a governmemt is never justified in lying to its people.
In order to answer your question correctly, I need to know what section "so far" pertains to. The answer to the above question has a variety of answers depending upon where you are in your reading.