In Touching Spirit Bear, what changes Coles attitude and makes him wish that the Spirit Bear would reappear???

The spirit bear really beat Cole up the first time around. Cole had been aggressive to the bear trying to scare it away. Cole was being his same old controlling self. The Spirit Bear is supposed to be a reflection of Cole's own spirit. The second time around Cole is more self-aware, he has let much of his anger go. Cole wants to see his Spirit Bear but without all his negative energy. He wants to see the reflection of his inner change in his bear.