Do parents sometimes get so caught up in their own rules that they forget their children will one day be adults? Are some rules freeing?

When Jeannette describes Grandma Smith she remembers a woman who “had strong opinions about the way things ought to be done – how to dress, how to talk, how to organize your time, how to cook and keep house, how to manage your finances…” (91), and says she loved her and all of her rules. However, Rose Mary, Grandma Smith’s daughter, felt that her mother “nagged and badgered” and that was the reason she herself never set rules for her own kids. To what extent are rules necessary for children’s healthy development and to what extent are they restricting and limiting? Are some rules “age appropriate”? Do parents sometimes get so caught up in their own rules that they forget their children will one day be adults? Are some rules freeing?