Respect Yourself(Colville’s rules) How does Reef learn the true meaning of the rule?

Reef is a disenfranchised, somewhat grumpy guy who wants to fit in, and he does have some buddies that he really enjoys, but as soon as he meets Leeza, he considers their relationship in terms of what she will think of him. Reef wants Leeza to like him because a friendship with an attractive girl could help him to work through his feelings of self-disapproval. Reef learns that he cannot acieve any meaningful relationships until he takes responsibility for his actions: until he respects himself and others.