The Question and Answer section for The Analects of Confucius is a great resource to ask questions, find answers, and discuss the novel.
According to the Analects, a son should treat his parents gently and with respect.
"In serving his parents, a son may remonstrate with them, but gently; when he sees that they are not disposed to acquiesce, he should show increased reverence but...
You should just forget the whole frustration.
I'm not sure what your question is here.