How does Alice change in her ability to deal with adults who frustrate her? What happens? How does Alice react or what does Alice do?

This sounds very much like Alice's growth into adulthood which takes place throughout the story. This theme is central to both books. Alice's adventures parallel the journey from childhood to adulthood. She comes into numerous new situations in which adaptability is absolutely necessary for success. She shows marked progress throughout the course of the book; in the beginning, she can barely maintain enough composure to keep herself from crying. By the end of the novel, she is self-possessed and able to hold her own against the most baffling Wonderland logic. You can check more out at the GradeSaver link below: 

Alice's way to deal with adults who frustrate her is to correct them. Alice has in the back of her mind how adults are "supposed" to act from her teachers and Alice's mother. When Alice gets to Wonderland and sees that no one follows the rules Alice got taught, Alice gets frustrated quickly. In chapter 7, page 54, the Mad-Hatter comments on Alice's hair. Alice answers. "You should learn not to make personal remarks." Even though she is still a child, she has a sense of wrong and right. She has this sense throughout the whole book. She does learn to be more patient throughout the book. Chapter 10, page 85, The mock turtle and the Gryphon talk about something she has no reason to care about; Alice replies by saying. "Thank you. It's very interesting. I never knew so much about a whiting before."