Why does torvald act more like a father figure with nora than her husband?

Although he loves Nora,Torvald doesn't understand her or women in general. In that sense he is self-centred, he just doesn't know any better. I wouldn't call him a tyrant. He doesn't abuse Nora. Torvald is controlling but again, it's like he doesn't know any different. Like many men at the time he operated in a patriarchal world. His control over Nora and his patronizing concern for her smacks of a parent's concern for a child rather than a husband to Nora.